Monday, May 11, 2009

Black Flower Girl Dress?

Hello Bridal Bee Buddies! I wanted to address an interesting question that one of my readers posted last week. "Hi bridal bee. I have noticed a lot of people wear black to weddings these days. Do you recommend black for our little girls? Is it too drab for a little flower girl dress?" I like this question. We have all thought about whether it would be appropriate to wear a black dress to a wedding. Evening weddings, it is surely fine, but when is it ok to wear if during the day?

In American tradition, black is more of a "down in dumps" depressing color. I for one like to buck tradition and increasingly people are wearing black to weddings, whether daytime or evening. Black is an elegant color, slimming and easy to wear for all body types. The little black dress is a staple for every woman's closet for those reasons, but at the same time can also look drab and morbid if in an unflattering shape or material. The same would be for your little flower girl.

First things first, if the bride has chosen all the brides maids and flower girls to be in black, then you have to comply! I went to a wedding last summer and black and red were the theme colors. The whole bridal party was in black. The guests were all requested to wear black as well. The bride chose a fun 50's inspired cut for the dresses, which made them quite fun despite the black color. Though it sounds like it would be depressing and lackluster, it was quite elegant. Keeping with fun shapes and material make black quite cute.

To soften black for a flower girl's dress is an easy fix. Make sure to pick a black material that isn't just one texture or too stiff and heavy. There are many fabrics that have black on black pattern. The black may be a varying degree of darkness. It could be black sequin or glitter accents to create texture. It could be a black flocked pattern on black taffeta or chiffon. You can make basic black less basic and more sassy with a great fabric.

Length is another way to make sure the dress isn't to dowdy. I would avoid dressing a flower girl in an overly long dress. A three quarter length dress to the mid shin that has a little volume under the skirt can keep it cute and young. Have the underlying tulle be a different color. When she dances or walks down the aisle there will be a splash of color. Adding a sash to the black dress of a slightly different color like purple would add dimension and variance to the outfit. Remember you can always use the accessories to introduce colors. We all know the flowers most likely won't be black (at least I hope not) and that will be another addition of color.

To make a long story short, if the bride calls for a black flower girl dress, then you should comply. I do think that then and only then should you willfully dress your flower girl in black. Black for other party events like holiday parties are appropriate, but in general for a wedding, stray from black unless asked to do so because black will be more distracting than other colors.

Til next time my friends!


Bridal Bee

My flower girl dress pick of the week:

My Lady Ivory Baby Dress with Ribbon Hem (item: J1211B-IVY) This dress isn't black, but it's super cute and would be great in black for the following reasons. The different layers would break up the black. Air is not a color, but if there is noticeable space between the layers it would make the black more airy. There are also multiple types of fabric that would also break up the monotony of black! There is so much detail and different patterns and materials that would make this dress truly adorable in black. From the rosettes to the cap sleeves, this is truly a delicious little flower girl's dress.

Queen Lace Black Flower Girl Dress (item: J1311G-BLK) Since I have been gushing over black flower girl dresses, I thought I would show you an example of a dress that incorporated a hint of black that would be suitable for any wedding day or night. This dress comes in a few colors and even in baby dress sizes! Something like this is always great as it can be worn a bunch of times to multiple formal events. More bang for your buck!

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